NLP through stories - story 58

A fish peddler woman was caught in rain and so took shelter at the veranda of a house.

The rain did not seem to subside. So the fisher woman thought of taking a nap for some time and closed her eyes. But she could not sleep peacefully because of the smell from the house. The smell was very disturbing. 

It was the house of a flower vendor and the fragrance of flowers was very irritating for the woman; 

finally she took her fish basket nearby and in the smell of fish she could get her sleep and relaxed well.

Learning

It is conditioned response from the fish vendor.

While people in general may prefer the fragrance of flowers to fish smell 

the vendor feels at home with the smell of fish.

NLP calls this as ANCHORING,(conditioning)

Anchor is any stimulus that elicits a particular response.

Anchors form unconsciously.

NLP teaches how to anchor consciously for desired response and also collapsing unwanted response.

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NLP through stories - story 57

Rupee note in all its pride said to the coin,
“I keep rolling in the hands of celebrities;
high valued commodities are bought with my power”

The coin said,
“I am saved in the piggy bank of dear children;
I am preserved in temples ;
I am very much satisfied with what I am” 

Learning:

Everyone has intrinsic merit and worth. 

Self worth is not determined by net worth.

Each is useful in some specific context.

NLP says we are all unique in our ways     

No need to compare; no need to compete.

We must respect the individual model of the world.

Appropriateness of anything must be evaluated in the context of the happening and not based on a generalized comparison

Appreciate your uniqueness; 

Self appreciation s the best appreciation.

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NLP through stories - story 56

A philosopher who had only one pair of shoes asked the cobbler to repair them while he would wait.

The cobbler said,’ it is closing time and please come tomorrow to take deliver “

The philosopher said, “I have only this pair of shoes; I can’t walk bare foot.”

“I can lend you another pair of shoes till then” said the cobbler

“What? Wearing someone’s shoes? What do you take me for?” asked the philosopher in an intemperate tone.

The cobbler replied sarcastically, “you don’t hesitate to carry other people’s ideas in your head; why object to wearing someone’s shoe on your feet?’’

Moral :

It is very important to have hands on experience to gain expertise, especially when facing real life which does not follow a set script you need to be alive to the situation and respond appropriately. This can happen if you proceed out of real life experience.

NLP asks you to go by your inner guidance system as evidenced by your senses. 

Authenticity comes by experience.   

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NLP through stories - story 55

A man is walking down the beach and comes across a sealed bottle.  

He picks it up and pulls out the cork. Out pops a genie and says that it can grant 3 wishes. 

The man asks for 1 billion dollar in Swiss bank & gets it

“I want a red Ferrari” – in no time he gets it.

He continues, “I want to be irresistible to women”

POOF!! He turns into a box of chocolates

Moral :

When we communicate we must be specific about what we want or ask. 

If not we leave room for people to derive their meaning. 

The intended meaning becomes a variant to derived meaning.

In fact meaning of communication is based upon the recipient.

Hence communicator has to take responsibility for the outcome of communication by seeking feedback from the respondent. 

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NLP through stories - story 54

A monk decides to meditate alone, away from his monastery. 

He takes his boat out to the middle of the lake, moors it there, closes his eyes and begins his meditation. After a few hours of undisturbed silence, he suddenly feels the bump of another boat colliding with his own. With his eyes still closed, he senses his anger rising, and by the time he opens his eyes, he is ready to scream at the boatman who dared to disturb his meditation. But when he opens his eyes, he sees it’s an empty boat that had probably got untethered and floated to the middle of the lake. At that moment, the monk achieves self-realization, and understands that the anger is within him; it merely needs the bump of an external object to provoke it out of him. From then on, whenever he comes across someone who irritates him or provokes him to anger, he reminds himself, “The other person is merely an empty boat. The anger is within me.”

Moral
Nothing inherently has meaning except the meaning we give to it;

The response is based on the conditioning; stimulus is only an opportunity to study our pattern of behavior.

On many occasions when we lose our cool we blame our circumstance;
so long as we blame we are at the mercy of circumstance. 

Between stimulus and response if we have choices then we can make intelligent response.

Self responsibility is the prudent way to gain self mastery 

NLP can help those who are willing to take responsibility for change

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NLP through stories - story 53

SENSITIVITY

“How shall I experience my oneness with creation?”

“By listening,” said the Master.

“And how am I to listen?”

“Become an ear that gives heed to every single thing the universe is saying.
The moment you hear something you yourself are saying, stop.”

Moral: 

Being alive to everything around is important in order to understand better.Suspending one’s agenda and evaluation if one can pay attention to what is going on around one can get enlightenment, may be emancipation from enslaving thought patterns.

NLP calls this UPTIME

UPTIME refers to a more worldly state of awareness that emphasizes external awareness

When you’re in uptime, you perceive the world around you in much greater accuracy and you absorb patterns with much greater facility.

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?Are we getting the result we want by being positive?

?Are we getting the result we want by being positive?

Positive thinking is expected to bring in positive result, in other words the expected result.

Does it give expected result all the time if not most of the time for all who carefully nurture positive thoughts despite even failing many times?

What could be the reason? Is it our fault in not having generated enough positive thinking?
 Can we say by the ‘negative’ result that our strategy was not right?

Can we say we are not fortunate enough to get what we want?

Can we say we are a cursed lot to suffer from what we don’t want?

Yes we have the right to conclude in whatever way we want.

All these are only interpretations we make based on the meaning we give to the outcome.

Yet what is the fact? What could be the reason that we don’t get what we want? We don’t get as we want? We don’t get at the time we want?

Let me give an ‘INTELLIGENT’ answer.

Yes the answer is based on INTELLIGENCE.

We know we have body intelligence which governs the functioning of the body and the body responds & reacts to stimuli from outside; we have automated functions governed by this intelligence.

Equally we know the world is moving in order; moving in harmony;

There is a larger wisdom that governs the movement of this cosmos and everything happens to maintain the equilibrium in this massive world.

I repeat everything happens to maintain the equilibrium in this massive world.
Hence you life effort, the result of effort – everything is governed based on the law of equilibrium.

Now the tricky question is

- “Some are leading a rich life, how? Some with not so much of ability or expertise seems to be leading a very rewarding life, how? How is it that a person with real talent languishing in difficulties and does not seem to be in the lime light at all?

These are definitely intriguing questions.

The answer is it is the way the world order has designed.

How?

Let me give an example

How many litres of milk are required to make one kg of butter?  20 litres

How many oranges are required to make one litre of orange juice?  15 oranges

How many flowers must honey bees tap to make one pound of honey? 2 million flowers

 How many sperm cells travel to reach embryo though only one is needed to fertilize an egg?

About 500 millions

For one kg butter 20 litres of milk; does it mean major portion of milk is waste?

For just one litre of juice 15 oranges; does that mean the pulp is now a waste?

If just one sperm cell is sufficient then why 500 million in one ejaculation?

Not so,

See the massive effort nature makes to produce a masterpiece!!

It is all a part of nature’s design.

Looking at the world event from that perspective where you and I also form part of it, if people are succeeding marginally or phenomenally which are all relative in comparison, everything happens according to an order.

So if there are celebrities, outstanding achievers, exceptional performers, and crorepathis then they are so because crores of others equally capable, though not drawing money or fame like them, are making them so according to universal order.

Ambanis’ Adanis’ Bill Gates’ are possible because of so many nameless & faceless achievers in their own way but not equally recognized or rewarded like them.

Celebrate life because of you there are outstanding achievers & celebrities as per the design of world order.

The world is a beautiful place to live because you are living!

Keep aspiring! Keep doing! Get going!

Because of you the earth revolves, sun & moon shine, stars twinkle.

You are the reason because you are complete whole & perfect

You are a miniature moving cosmos 


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