? Pain seems to motivate better

Why the fear of pain motivates people better than seeking  fulfillment?

Why fear has more power than fascination?

Human biological system is programmed towards 'safety'; anything that seems to endanger safety man quickly reacts. Hence FEAR OF PAIN means losing something; 

fear of losing what one values significantly.
Man does not want to lose;
so he gets stressed to take action.. 

  Such 'motivation' is based on distress has its side effects like English medicine.

If one is habituated to taking action only after an external stimulus, then for anything & everything only when there is a push man will take action; 

this is more reactionary; ordinary people do this way.   

So long as we remain this way we become a prisoner of circumstance.

In this state of mind it is task completion that becomes a primary concern than the quality of the task.

Yet fear of pain is more powerful because it is physical.
Seeking fulfillment is more an intellectual calculation than an experience evidenced by senses;
so it does not stimulate so much.

Senses play a vital role in influencing the state of mind;

When knowledge is sensory based it catches our mind and attention easily.

How to make fulfillment more motivating than the negative fear?

NLP says “SIMULATION”

How will that experience be when you get what you want? Imagine and construct the result. Envision the end result.

When you succeed in completing the task & get the desired result-
What will you SEE then?
What will you HEAR then?
How will you FEEL then?

Construct the result and see it as if it is happening right now. 

Simulate inside your head.

Timothy Galway through his book  “INNER GAME of TENNIS” advocates mental rehearsal; according to him mental rehearsal has a very great positive impact on performance than the actual rehearsal.

The author Bruce Lipton says in his book Biology of Belief, ‘ your beliefs act like filters on a camera, changing how you see the world and you biology adapts to those belief”

Hence our brain cannot differentiate between imagined situation & real situation.

Once your experience is sensory based as seeing hearing feeling it becomes certain for you that you are sure to get the result you want.  Now because 'sense of certainty' sets in you embark on action as a matter of fact than a deliberate effort.

This proactive attitude gives enough space for you to be creative appropriate and effective.

SIMULATION gives STIMULATION. 

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NLP through stories - story 61

In keeping with his doctrine that nothing be taken too seriously, not even his own teachings, the Master loved to tell this story on himself:

“My very first disciple was so weak that the exercises killed him. My second disciple drove himself crazy from his earnest practice of the exercises I gave him. My third disciple dulled his intellect through too much contemplation. But the fourth managed to keep his sanity.”

“Why was that?” someone would invariably ask.

“Possibly because he was the only one who refused to do the exercises.” The Master’s words would be drowned in howls of laughter.

Learning  :

Humor is a good tonic to the mind.

Humour removes the tumour in the mind.

Humour brings you here & now

Laughing at oneself also lightens burden and self criticism

NLP advocates to be resourceful and to be resourceful humour is a great facilitator.

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