NLP through stories -Story 52

A man after visiting Malaysia returned to India. 
He wanted to build a beautiful house.
He invited architectural drawing. 
He was not satisfied with the plan & rejected.
The architect was disappointed though she gave a wonderful design.
Likewise the man rejected every plan presented to him by many architects.
None could satisfy this man.
Coming to know of this episode an architect appraoched this man & promised he would be able to satisfy his need. The architect asked this man one simple question, "How do you want the design to be? anything specific you want too say?"

The man said," Thank God you asked me; you see I have bought a wonderful door knob in Malaysia; I want this to be fit into a door; no architect showed a door in his drawing. no architect could design a house where my door knob can be fit in"  

The architect said, " Give me two hours; I will give you the design"
The architect took a drawing from the man & added a door with knob in the design .
Now he produced this new design to the man;
The man was thrilled. 

NLP the science of excellence works towards specifics
NLP suggests a person to move towards specific outcome;
NLP suggests to understand the need of the subject by engaging in dialogue
NLP suggests to understand the map of a person

To go by the suggestion of NLP if the unsuccessful architects had enquired what the man had in mind; what he expected, the job would have become easier.

One architect was successful in asking precisely & understood the need and fulfilled appropriately.

The NLP presupposition is "People respond to their map"      

Know the map & navigate aptly.
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What makes NLP special?

NLP is special in the sense it has clearly identified what happens when a man thinks.
NLP has clearly studied the structure of thinking.
In NLP training sessions you are taught how to identify the pattern of thinking.
What happens when you think and how that thinking impacts your behaviour
In NLP course you are taught how you can think better in a way that gets the results you want.
People in NLP training workshops do this by funny creative imagination.
This makes NLP very special.
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NLP through stories - story 51

The proponent of Theory of Evolution Charles Darwin was once insulted by a critic.
The critic said, " Darwin! you say mankind evolved from monkey race.
"What a great thing your own face is a proof of your theory!"

Darwin said, " true; I am very proud that I am the very proof to substantiate my own theory" 


See how effectively Darwin changed an adverse comment into a favorable one.
Darwin conveniently changed the frame of reference;
thus a criticism has become a compliment .

This is said as RE-FRAMING  in NLP.

Reframing helps us to move from a dis-empowering state to an empowering state of mind.
Nothing is good or bad except the meaning we give to it.
Change the meaning of a situation; you automatically change your response to the situation.
Success in life depends on how responsive we are to life situations.
Reframimg helps you to be appropriately responsive & succeed in life.
NLP trains you to reframe.
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NLP through stories - story 50

A king once wanted to weigh his royal elephant.
Yet could not do because no weighing machine was available.
Though he sought the advice of wise counsels  none could offer a solution.
A young boy came to know of the desire of the king & said he could show a way. 
He was taken to the king.
The boy gave his idea - 
'First put the elephant in a boat in a water tank. 
Due to weight the boat will sink. 
Mark the water level on the wall of the boat . 
Then alight the elephant..
Now start filling the boat with bricks till the boat sinks upto the mark .
Thereafter take the bricks & weigh conveniently. 
The total weight will be the weight of the elephant."
The king was amazed.at the brilliance of the boy.  

The learning from the story is 'even a mammoth task can be accomplished 
if made into convenient components. 
There is also a saying on  elephant -- "how to eat an elephant?  A bite at a time"
This bit sized approach is called CHUNKING in NLP 
When you chunk down you are able to be more & more specific to deal with the situation.
Difficulties when you chunk down diminishes.
Positives when you chunk down intensifies. 
Also chunking up helps to you to collaborate with people. 
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NLP through stories - story 49

Thousands of years ago on a battlefield of Kurushethra  in India, Arjuna, the young warrior prince of the Pandavas, is leading his army in a great  war against Kauravas, who have unjustly usurped his kingdom. 

As the forces gather on the eve of the ultimate battle, he rides out with his charioteer, the god Krishna, to survey the enemy. 

There in the middle of the battlefield he sees that the Kaurava’s army arrayed against him includes his own relatives, teachers, friends, and loved ones.

Suddenly overcome with self-doubt and confusion, he calls out to Krishna to stop his chariot, saying he is unable to fight.

Krishna does all his best to convince Arjuna to fight, the result of which is the song celestial called   ‘Srimad  Bagavad Gita’ ,   in 18 chapters, 700 stanza ,

Arjuna says, “Krishna ! Whatever you say I understand; yet my heart is not convinced; my mind does not get the strength “

Sri Krishna then takes his ‘VISWAROOPA’  -turns himself into a vision of magnificence and power beyond imagining.  Seeing this magnificence Arjuna  gets convinced and agrees to fight.

The learning from this event is that Arjuna gets his dilemma after 'seeing'  the army of enemies; 

equally Arjuna gets convinced after seeing the magnificence & power of Sri Krishna; 

even after 'hearing' Sri krishna's wise suggestion Arjuna gets 'feeling' only after seeing.

Some prefer to see to understand ( V)
some prefer to hear to understand (A)
some prefer to experience or feel to understand (K)

We each have a preferred representational system.
For some of us it is visual, (V)
for others it is kinesthetic (K), and
for others it is auditory. (A)

In order to make some one understand better,
if we can present the matter in their preferred mode,
the job is done easily . 

V-A-K  is Value Adding Knowledge
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NLP through stories -- story 48

A very old lady looked in the mirror one morning. 
She had three remaining hairs on her head, and being a positive soul, 
she said, "I think I'll braid my hair today." 
So she braided her three hairs, and she had a great day. 

Some days later, looking in the mirror one morning, preparing for her day, 
she saw that she had only two hairs remaining.
 "Hmm, two hairs... I fancy a centre parting today." 
She duly parted her two hairs, and as ever, she had a great day.

A week or so later, she saw that she had just one hair left on her head.
"One hair huh...," she mused, "I know, a pony-tail will be perfect." 
And again she had a great day. 
The next morning she looked in the mirror. 
She was completely bald. 
"Finally bald huh," she said to herself, 
"How wonderful! I won't have to waste time doing my hair any more.."


The story talks of attitude; it is very apparent. yes positive attitude.
NLP says "it is not what happens in life but what you do with what happens that makes the difference'.
NLP talks of state management.
To be in resourceful state of mind is important to make the best out of any situation.
Our response to life situation is based on the meaning we give to every situation.
If we give a 'positive' meaning then we exhibit a positive response;
we regain & remain in an empowering state of mind.
One way of giving  'positive' meaning is REFRAMING ..
meaning reframing empowers us in spite of apparent disappointments.
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NLP through stories -story 47

A king went to a spiritual guru and placed before him in a bundle all his property and
pleaded he was shown the way to ANANDHA ( joy peace ) in lieu of his property.
The guru all of  sudden grabbed the bag and started running away from the scene.
The  king was shocked by the strange behavior of the guru;
he mistook the guru for an ordinary man and felt bad he approached a fake guru..
The king started chasing the guru and was keen on getting the bag back. 
but the guru gave a tough time to the king; the king could not catch the guru.
Tired exhausted he was about to give up with a great discontent,
when the guru stopped   and handed over the bag to the king;
Receiving the bag, the king felt relieved of worry and felt extremely happy.
Now the guru said, " you have your ANANDHA now ?" 
The king said, " yes" 

The great lesson from the story is very obvious. 
The joy was already with the king;
he did not know how to realize that;
he wanted to trade for joy happiness  & peace.    

The guru made him realize that by a process apparently misleading or confusing,
yet gave what the king was looking for.

Equally NLP says "People already have all the resources they need"
NLP helps you to realize that by a process that may appear to be 'illogical' crazy funny.
yet if one goes by the process one can surely get.
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NLP through stories - story 46

Once upon a time a foolish brahmin came to visit Birbal with a strange request.
He wanted to be addressed as 'pandit'.
Now, the term 'pandit' refers to a man of learning.
But unfortunately this poor brahmin was uneducated.
Birbal tried to explain the difference to him saying that it was not correct to call an uneducated man a pandit and because of this very reason it would be improper to call him so.
But the silly brahmin had his heart set on this title.
So, as usual, Birbal had a brilliant idea.
He said that as the brahmin was an uneducated man he should hurl abuses and stones at anyone who dared to address him by the very same title he wanted.
Then Birbal called all his servants to himself and ordered them to call this lowly brahmin a pandit.
The brahmin was very pleased.
But the moment the servants started calling out to him as 'pandit' 
he pretended to be very angry and started to abuse them loudly.
Then he picked up a few stones and hurled them in their direction.
All as per clever Birbal's advice.
All this shouting and screaming drew a crowd.
When people realised that this brahmin was erupting every time anyone called him 'pandit', 
they all started to tease him.
Over the next couple of days, he would constantly hear  'pandit' wherever he went.
Very soon the whole town started referring to him as 'pandit' much to his delight.
The foolish brahmin never realised why people were calling him in this manner.
And was extremely pleased with the result. 
This Pandit thanked Birbal from the very bottom of his foolish heart. 

What you resist always persist.
The more you are conscious of what you don't want, the more it appears to be present.
Nature abhors vacuum; 
So the more you pay attention to what you dont want, the more strongly it stays with you;
whereas if you can start focusing on what you want then will start moving towards you, to stay with you. 

'The easiest way to kill a foe is to make him a friend' ( unknown)

According to the principle of NLP, " Everything has a purpose/ meaning for its existence'
Even our so called 'negative' has a purpose to fulfill, a positive intention; 
if one can, you know, acknowledge its presence with open mind, understand the positive intention and manipulate accordingly, then it becomes easy to modify behavior.

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NLP through stories - Story 45

This story is widely known.
A father was very worried over quarreling sons. 
Almost all his attempts to make them realize the importance of unity failed.
He was nearing death; 
He called all his sons;
He gave them each a stick and asked them to break it; they broke easily;
then he asked them to bundle the sticks.
And he asked them to break the sticks in the bundle;
The sons could not break however hard they tried.


This story is narrated to explain the power of togetherness;
unity is strength .
Wonderful yes..

Yet I draw another lesson from this story.

Any new habit or behavior -  if it is nurtured on a regular basis it can become a part of your nature..
Power of consistency.
This process of conditioning is well explained by this story.
How?
Like in the story, a single stick - it gets easily broken; same way any new learning or skill or behavior if done only once like the single stick breaks away from our system easily.
If every day we practice it is akin to tying one stick everyday to the bundle;
in about 21 days, like the bundle of sticks cannot be broken easily and the sticks stay safe together, this new behavior stays with the individual safely.
Stick to the practice regularly;
What you  nurture becomes your nature.
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NLP through stories - Story 44

A stag while drinking water saw his own reflection and mused," What splendid horns I have! So sturdy, yet so graceful; these would certainly save my life's combats. But my legs... how spindly and thin they look! It's a wonder they are able to carry my weight."

 At that time some huntsmen with a pack of hounds appeared and the stag started running for life.

So long as the plain was free of trees he kept running giving a good distance ahead; his legs carried him ahead.

But when he came to woody place his horns got entangled in the overhead branches, and unable to move further he was caught.

In the last moment he thought, " How foolish I was; things that I doubted & despised saved me, while those which I trusted and admired have brought  about my end."

Well,  all that glitters is not gold; appearance is deceptive, .... whatever interpretation.. one can give for this story.

According NLP everything is useful in its context; 

each must be evaluated in its context

NLP advocates non-judgemental approach;

'nothing to compare, nothing to compete'

Get to know the context of any behavior or communication and 

understand the best intention though you may not approve the behavior apparently. 

Every thing is context specific; 

it is the context that decides the appropriateness or inappropriateness.  

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NLP through stories -- story 43

A cat and a fox were exchanging views upon the difficulties of living in peace and guarding from predators.
The fox said, " I do not care a bit for any of them; things may be bad;
I have thousand one tricks to show my enemies before they can harm me"  

"you are very fortunate" replied the cat with a bit of jealousy and feeling low, " I have only one way of evading enemies only way to escape"

The fox said, " I am sorry for you with all my heart. Don't worry when enemies come I will teach you one of my techniques. 

Hardly had he finished  this a pack of hounds suddenly burst upon them.
The cat resorted to her single trick of climbing the tree for safety. 
From there he watched what happened.
The fox not able to make up his mind which trick to use lost its time and was caught by the pack of hounds

Knowledge merely intellectualized does not come to rescue at times of danger or emergency.
During crisis it is the habit pattern that manifests.

Life is not a seminar where you sit safely and debate leisurely.
Life is to be lived meeting contingencies & emergencies as they appear at unexpected moments.
Life always bristles with problems of varying magnitude.   
The process of surmounting problems constitutes progress in life.

In order to progress knowledge must be internalized,
knowledge must get into your bones & flesh and cell and blood.

In NLP this internalized knowledge is said as UNCONSCIOUS COMPETENCE.
Only unconscious competence gives spontaneity in action.
'thought proof action'

Doing alone  gives unconscious competence.
The great end of life is not knowledge but action says Tony Robbins.

Bruce Lee says, " I am not afraid of the man  who has practiced 10000 kicks once; I am afraid of the man who has practiced one kick 10000 times"
yes power of precision, spontaneous & swift action without deliberation contemplation at the time of action..

NLP stresses upon unconscious competence..
Practice is essential for this.
It is in doing that one gains mastery.
Lest it is merely 'mouthing'
 Be a man of action.
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NLP through stories - Story 42

A sculptor started carving two statues of the same model.
One he was making it at his backyard all alone.
The other he was making at the front yard of his house.
His friends acquaintance passers by , whoever dropped in observing the making of a statue started giving suggestions to the sculptor to modify the look size shape of the statue;
one suggested to keep a parrot on the shoulder, an army man suggested to keep a gun, one said of special boot,  a beggar suggested give a bowl,  - each offered 'valuable' suggestion.
The sculptor without refusing any suggestion accommodated all the requests & suggestions.
The other statue at the backyard he was making all alone by his own choice & with his own idea.

After finishing both, he kept them for public view.
Everyone praised what the sculptor made all by himself.
The other one made as per the wishes of others was very ugly and everyone detested.


NLP says of Metaprogram, a filter to understand and interpret events.
One of the filters is Frame of reference... Internal reference/ External reference.. 

Internal reference is people relying on their internal feedback, (self evaluation & self understanding) than depending on external feedback;
External reference is relying more on others opinion & approval for your worth & merit.

Though it is a continuum, yet people have preferred way of filtering events, a dominant filter;
we can say innie or outie 

Fact is no two people see the world with same eyes
Hence to rely excessively on others opinions & advice may lead us to go astray,
like the statue kept at front yard becoming ugly and distasteful;
If you rely purely on others opinion it is only a matter of chance for you to get the best.

To rely more on your internal feedback and go by intuition is suggested for excellence in work.
It is inner excellence at work often produces remarkable result.
Listen to yourself; that is where answer to all your life's problem comes.
People who listen to themselves don't often come to regret.
Be your guide.
NLP emphasizes that.
You are already your master.
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NLP through stories _ story 41

Emperor Akbar came up with a strange idea.
He invited the heads of the village and said, "I shall give a goat to each one of you.
You must feed them well. Take good care of them. The cost is my responsibility.
You must return the goats after one month.
But when you return, the goats should weigh the same as they are today."

The village heads wondered how this would be possible. Many did not accept the challenge.

Somehow, Birbal came to know about this. He prevailed on village head and made him accept the challenge.

"Patelji, do not worry about what the Emperor has said. Just take good care of the goat," said Birbal.

"In that case, the goat will grow fat." said the village head

"There is a solution for that. On the outskirts of the village, there is a lion in the cage. Tie up this goat just a little way of from the lion. Rest will be taken care of " said Birbal.

 The Patel followed Birbal's instruction. Even after one month the goat did not gain weight.
Akbar was pleased and understood it must have been the idea of Birbal.

The story clearly indicates the power of toxic emotions in us.
why did the goat not gain weight, though well taken care of?
Due to fear and insecurity, the goat did not gain an ounce of weight.
Though the lion was inside the cage it was actually living inside the mind space of the goat.
That fear sapped the energy vitality and peace of the goat.
That is why NLP says
"PEOPLE DON'T LACK RESOURCES; PEOPLE LACK RESOURCEFUL STATE OF MIND"
NLP always asks a question," Before embarking on a task or responding to a situation ask " Am I in a resourceful state of mind?"
If so proceed; if not add resource, become  resourceful and respond for best result.
VRnlp gives resourceful state of mind.
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NLP through stories -Story 40

 Sanjeevani is a magical herb  which has the power to cure any malady.
It is believed that medicines prepared from this herb could revive a dead person.
This herb is mentioned in the great epic Ramayana,  when Ravana's  son Indrajit  hurls a powerful weapon at  Lakshmana & he is badly wounded and is nearly killed by Indrajeet. Hanuman is called upon to fetch this herb from the mount Dunagiri  (Mahodaya) in the Himalayas. That too Hanuman must bring the herb before sunrise;
only then Lakshamana can be saved.
Upon reaching Mount Sumeru, Hanuman is unable to identify the herb and  and so Hanuman decides to lift the entire mountain and so Hanuman carries the entire mountain and brings to battlefield; as Hanuman approaches the battlefield, the smell of the Sanjeevini herb brings Lakshamana to consciousness.

This is really an inspiring story for me.
To me it teaches an important principle of NLP.
Hanuman here though goes to fetch the herb from the mountain, upon reaching there he does not remember the details of herb to identify.
He does not hesitate or feel dispirited.
He does not return to battlefield located far south and say "Sorry I dont know, tell me again"
Time is a factor; he has to do something.
Instead of sitting under the excuse that he does not have clear details, he does what he knows at that time and gets into action doing something towards intended purpose.
Once it is done, that is carrying the very mountain that contains the herb,
Jambavan there identifies and saves Lakshmana.

Same way in life even when you dont have full clear details on hand, still get into action do something towards goal/outcome with what you know at that time;
that can help you to move ahead and many may come to your aid to reach your goal once they know you are commtted.
The principle of NLP
" It is not necessary to know everything beforehand to be able to use everything."
"It is not necessary to understand everything to be able to use everything"

Begin with what you know and things will roll out as you progress.
End & aim of life is not knowledge but action.
Action alone cures.
Hanuman gives you strength for action & success.
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NLP through stories - Story 39

"Everybody other than me is very happy"

" It is because they have learned to notice acknowledge and appreciate what is beautiful;
and so they are happy"

” I am not able to find  beauty & joy around anywhere"

" It is because you have failed to appreciate the beauty &
joy within you & so you fail to notice even outside"

 
Is it not enlightening??
The world is only a reflection of our mind.
How we are inside is what is reflected outside.
Every cell of being contains the same energy of your entire being;
and your entire being carries the same  energy of universal being.
Hence NLP says reality to an individual is how she has personalized or customized;
whole of NLP is helping an individual to alter or modify the map as appropriately as possible
to keep the person in an empowering state of mind.
"As within So without"
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NLP through stories -story 38

Ospensky was a Russian philosopher.
He had written many books. One day he went to meet Gurdjeff, a french saint.
Ospensky said to Gurdjeff  they should sit together & talk a lot.
Gurdjeff then handed over to Ospensky a piece of paper and asked him to note down what he knew & what he did not know and that they could begin the talk on what Ospensky did not know.
Ospensky then started thinking on subject after subject;
everything seemed to be elusive;
he could not say he knew fully well; 
he could not say he did not know at all; 
Ospensky was really confused and said to Gurdjeff, " I am not sure of anything"
Gurdjeff then said," without being of sure of anything how did you write so many books?
Ospensky thought for a moment & acknowledged, " yes you are right; I started building castles of words without solid foundation of substance. Now I understand the importance of TRUTH"

Authenticity;
knowledge must get into your bones; only then learning is beneficial.
Particularly when it comes to learning & benefitting from NLP, learning by doing is very very important;
it has whole lot of benefit.
NLP is not just a set of techniques.
NLP is methodology, a process for personal and organisational change.
Integrity, Honesty is very important.
Memorizing a few  terms & parrot like repetition in class room is not mastery;
it is just impressionism.
When put to test in real life situation the gas will be out.
According to me clamoring for certificate & just completing a NLP course is only an empty sound.
Real strength lies in real learning & practice.
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NLP through stories -- Story 37

This cap seller story most of us know.
The cap seller takes rest under a tree and dozes off.
The monkeys above each take one cap and
wears it imitating the cap seller who is wearing a cap.

The cap seller wakes up to find that the cap is now stuck with monkeys.
He does not fight with the monkeys.
He understands the psyche of the monkey and so throws his cap into the basket;
seeing this the monkeys also throw the cap into the basket.
Gathering the caps the seller happily goes his way to continue selling.

This story normally said for fun and the thoughtless imitation of monkeys.
Underlying this decision of the cap seller to employ the trick of throwing cap into the basket to retrieve caps from monkeys lies a deeper mind set most welcome and to be imbibed or copied like monkeys copying the seller.
It is the 'RESOURCEFULNESS' or RESOURCEFUL STATE of mind by the cap seller despite difficulty based by him.
His life & day's earning depends on his days sales; yet he does not lose hope when he sees his caps are hijacked by monkeys.
He uses his brain, find an idea and tactfully retrieves his stock.
We can say he was positive even in the face of difficulty;
In NLP it is said to be resourceful state of mind.
NLP gives you resourceful state of mind.
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NLP through stories -story 36

According to Hindu purana ages before Devas(gods) and Asuras(demons) joined hands to churn NECTAR out of  OCEAN of MILK with snake Vasuki as rope and Mount Meru for churning
Divine Cow Divine Elephant, Divine Horse, and many more came out before finally NECTAR coming out.
The one that came initially was POISON.

On rush of poison was so terrifying that even gods& demons were terrified;
Lord Shiva comes to their rescue and drinks the poison to save the world. 
Parvati Mata holds the neck of Lord Shiva and prevents poison entering into Lord Shiva's stomach; so the neck of Lord Shiva turns blue, hence HE is called as NEELAKANTA, blue-throated lord.


The moral that we must bear in mind here is though the purpose was to extract nectar what came initially was POISON; it was Lord Shiva who rescued them; also Devas & Asuras were knowing what a Nectar was, they did not mistake poison to be nectar, which means they were aware of how a poison would be.

The lesson here in life when we embark on a mission, initially we may have to face opposition& resistance, not necessarily encouragement.
We must be ready like Lord Shiva to gulp down resistance, lest we may be swayed from purpose.
Also we must know what the outcome is, how to identify the outcome, what eveidence we have to know it is outcome.
Equally & much more even, we must be outcome oriented , meaning we must bear in mind the purpose of a process; only then when distractions come in between we will stay on purpose even when when we are busy with process.
NLP is outcome oriented; (for what purpose?)   
NLP also advocates on feedback (what sensory inputs you get as evidence)


Be ready for challenges on your road to Success wealth Prosperity.
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NLP through stories - Story 35

Punishment or stick ?
Rabindranath Tagore was attending a meeting of the teachers. After discussion on trends & qualities of literature, Rabindranath suddenly addressed a person, " Nepal Babu, you have become forgetful these days. So I shall give you 'dand' 
Nepal Babu was perplexed  and the gathering also could not comprehend the outburst of the poet. 
At that time Tagore took out a stick & gave it to Nepal with this remark," you had forgotten this stick at my place yesterday. So please take your stick. 
It was the that people assembled there understood Tagore's joke. 
'DAND' means PUNISHMENT as well STICK.. 

It is pun, right???
In a sense NLP employs this pun appropriately as conversational reframing;
conversational reframing is done to shift the focus or perception of the subject by a twist. 
Sleight of Mouth pattern in NLP helps subjects get out of stuck state and
empowers them by surprisingly providing a new meaning to the same context.
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NLP through stories - story 34

A woman went to meet her friend at her residence. 
She was introduced to the daughter of her friend.
This woman commented to the daughter, " You look like 8th standard student, though you study now 5th standard only; why don't you take up sports and participate in competition; surely you will win prizes"
Thereafter she spoke to her friend and left from there.
 A few months later, this woman got a call from her friend. The friend said," Thanks for encouraging my daughter; she indeed participated in sports and has got prizes"
This woman was very happy, yet could not make out the background," I dont remember to have particularly encouraged your daughter"
Her friend said," Remember months before you came home; engaged in a conversation with my daughter, that time you suggested to her to involve in sports. She was feeling low about herself, But your words triggered the spirit in her; she started taking interest in studies & school activities; now she has won prize"   


The moral of the story is even innocent remark of good words
have electrifying effect on right thinking well meaning people.
The woman was not even aware of having encouraged the 'daughter';
it was more a matter of fact for her to speak well & kindly.
One of the principles of NLP is -
 Every communication either contributes to or contaminates relationship to a lesser of greater degree.

Communication is vital for quality life.
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NLP through srories -- story 33

A man once read in an ancient book about a black stone on a shore of the black sea which could on contact can turn any metal into gold. The stone would be warm to touch. So he went to the Black Sea, and found there a heap of black stones. He was convinced one of these would be the miracle stone.
He picked up a stone felt it on his cheek found it cold and flung into the sea. 
The second stone too was cold and followed the first one into the sea. 
He did this every day for days weeks months years.
Years later he put a stone to his cheek like usual and threw it into the sea, 
only to realize that that was the stone he was looking for.

Alas!
Very sad.
We soon get into habits, get into monotonous thoughtless routine losing sight of the purpose.
Man is more a creature of habit; what gets into habit happens unconsciously. 
90% of our activity every day is unconscious activities;
while definitely unconscious activities save our time & energy,
we must also bear in mind what we feed into unconscious mind.
We lose our awareness in our mechanical routine.
Prudence lies in being aware of what is going on inside and outside .
A little of awareness would have saved years of labor.
NLP advises to be aware of sensory acuity  and the feed back we get.
NLP advises to increase our awareness more & more.
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NLP thorugh stories- story 32

Needless to mention the special wisdom of Socrates.

He was also known for his simplicity & austerity in life.
Socrates was very appreciative of the spiritual wisdom of Hindu sages.

Though Socrates was simple,
he had a fascination to visit market place and
spend time in window shopping.

His friend once asked him
why spent so much of time gazing at products he never bought.

Socrates said with a smile,
“I like to spend time here.
Coming here I realize how happy I am,
even though I don’t have these products in my life “

Is it strange ?
Not really. Human we are and we tend to think to have pleasure by having something. So we tend to drive for something and possess to derive pleasure, only to realize that something else has more pleasure in it than what we have on hand.

The point here is from NLP angle it is the meaning what we give to events is what makes sense to us, nothing less nothing more. It is our interpretation that gives meaning

Like Shakespeare said, “Nothing is good or bad; our thinking makes it so” 

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