NLP through stories _ story 41

Emperor Akbar came up with a strange idea.
He invited the heads of the village and said, "I shall give a goat to each one of you.
You must feed them well. Take good care of them. The cost is my responsibility.
You must return the goats after one month.
But when you return, the goats should weigh the same as they are today."

The village heads wondered how this would be possible. Many did not accept the challenge.

Somehow, Birbal came to know about this. He prevailed on village head and made him accept the challenge.

"Patelji, do not worry about what the Emperor has said. Just take good care of the goat," said Birbal.

"In that case, the goat will grow fat." said the village head

"There is a solution for that. On the outskirts of the village, there is a lion in the cage. Tie up this goat just a little way of from the lion. Rest will be taken care of " said Birbal.

 The Patel followed Birbal's instruction. Even after one month the goat did not gain weight.
Akbar was pleased and understood it must have been the idea of Birbal.

The story clearly indicates the power of toxic emotions in us.
why did the goat not gain weight, though well taken care of?
Due to fear and insecurity, the goat did not gain an ounce of weight.
Though the lion was inside the cage it was actually living inside the mind space of the goat.
That fear sapped the energy vitality and peace of the goat.
That is why NLP says
"PEOPLE DON'T LACK RESOURCES; PEOPLE LACK RESOURCEFUL STATE OF MIND"
NLP always asks a question," Before embarking on a task or responding to a situation ask " Am I in a resourceful state of mind?"
If so proceed; if not add resource, become  resourceful and respond for best result.
VRnlp gives resourceful state of mind.
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NLP through stories -Story 40

 Sanjeevani is a magical herb  which has the power to cure any malady.
It is believed that medicines prepared from this herb could revive a dead person.
This herb is mentioned in the great epic Ramayana,  when Ravana's  son Indrajit  hurls a powerful weapon at  Lakshmana & he is badly wounded and is nearly killed by Indrajeet. Hanuman is called upon to fetch this herb from the mount Dunagiri  (Mahodaya) in the Himalayas. That too Hanuman must bring the herb before sunrise;
only then Lakshamana can be saved.
Upon reaching Mount Sumeru, Hanuman is unable to identify the herb and  and so Hanuman decides to lift the entire mountain and so Hanuman carries the entire mountain and brings to battlefield; as Hanuman approaches the battlefield, the smell of the Sanjeevini herb brings Lakshamana to consciousness.

This is really an inspiring story for me.
To me it teaches an important principle of NLP.
Hanuman here though goes to fetch the herb from the mountain, upon reaching there he does not remember the details of herb to identify.
He does not hesitate or feel dispirited.
He does not return to battlefield located far south and say "Sorry I dont know, tell me again"
Time is a factor; he has to do something.
Instead of sitting under the excuse that he does not have clear details, he does what he knows at that time and gets into action doing something towards intended purpose.
Once it is done, that is carrying the very mountain that contains the herb,
Jambavan there identifies and saves Lakshmana.

Same way in life even when you dont have full clear details on hand, still get into action do something towards goal/outcome with what you know at that time;
that can help you to move ahead and many may come to your aid to reach your goal once they know you are commtted.
The principle of NLP
" It is not necessary to know everything beforehand to be able to use everything."
"It is not necessary to understand everything to be able to use everything"

Begin with what you know and things will roll out as you progress.
End & aim of life is not knowledge but action.
Action alone cures.
Hanuman gives you strength for action & success.
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NLP through stories - Story 39

"Everybody other than me is very happy"

" It is because they have learned to notice acknowledge and appreciate what is beautiful;
and so they are happy"

” I am not able to find  beauty & joy around anywhere"

" It is because you have failed to appreciate the beauty &
joy within you & so you fail to notice even outside"

 
Is it not enlightening??
The world is only a reflection of our mind.
How we are inside is what is reflected outside.
Every cell of being contains the same energy of your entire being;
and your entire being carries the same  energy of universal being.
Hence NLP says reality to an individual is how she has personalized or customized;
whole of NLP is helping an individual to alter or modify the map as appropriately as possible
to keep the person in an empowering state of mind.
"As within So without"
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NLP through stories -story 38

Ospensky was a Russian philosopher.
He had written many books. One day he went to meet Gurdjeff, a french saint.
Ospensky said to Gurdjeff  they should sit together & talk a lot.
Gurdjeff then handed over to Ospensky a piece of paper and asked him to note down what he knew & what he did not know and that they could begin the talk on what Ospensky did not know.
Ospensky then started thinking on subject after subject;
everything seemed to be elusive;
he could not say he knew fully well; 
he could not say he did not know at all; 
Ospensky was really confused and said to Gurdjeff, " I am not sure of anything"
Gurdjeff then said," without being of sure of anything how did you write so many books?
Ospensky thought for a moment & acknowledged, " yes you are right; I started building castles of words without solid foundation of substance. Now I understand the importance of TRUTH"

Authenticity;
knowledge must get into your bones; only then learning is beneficial.
Particularly when it comes to learning & benefitting from NLP, learning by doing is very very important;
it has whole lot of benefit.
NLP is not just a set of techniques.
NLP is methodology, a process for personal and organisational change.
Integrity, Honesty is very important.
Memorizing a few  terms & parrot like repetition in class room is not mastery;
it is just impressionism.
When put to test in real life situation the gas will be out.
According to me clamoring for certificate & just completing a NLP course is only an empty sound.
Real strength lies in real learning & practice.
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NLP through stories -- Story 37

This cap seller story most of us know.
The cap seller takes rest under a tree and dozes off.
The monkeys above each take one cap and
wears it imitating the cap seller who is wearing a cap.

The cap seller wakes up to find that the cap is now stuck with monkeys.
He does not fight with the monkeys.
He understands the psyche of the monkey and so throws his cap into the basket;
seeing this the monkeys also throw the cap into the basket.
Gathering the caps the seller happily goes his way to continue selling.

This story normally said for fun and the thoughtless imitation of monkeys.
Underlying this decision of the cap seller to employ the trick of throwing cap into the basket to retrieve caps from monkeys lies a deeper mind set most welcome and to be imbibed or copied like monkeys copying the seller.
It is the 'RESOURCEFULNESS' or RESOURCEFUL STATE of mind by the cap seller despite difficulty based by him.
His life & day's earning depends on his days sales; yet he does not lose hope when he sees his caps are hijacked by monkeys.
He uses his brain, find an idea and tactfully retrieves his stock.
We can say he was positive even in the face of difficulty;
In NLP it is said to be resourceful state of mind.
NLP gives you resourceful state of mind.
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NLP through stories -story 36

According to Hindu purana ages before Devas(gods) and Asuras(demons) joined hands to churn NECTAR out of  OCEAN of MILK with snake Vasuki as rope and Mount Meru for churning
Divine Cow Divine Elephant, Divine Horse, and many more came out before finally NECTAR coming out.
The one that came initially was POISON.

On rush of poison was so terrifying that even gods& demons were terrified;
Lord Shiva comes to their rescue and drinks the poison to save the world. 
Parvati Mata holds the neck of Lord Shiva and prevents poison entering into Lord Shiva's stomach; so the neck of Lord Shiva turns blue, hence HE is called as NEELAKANTA, blue-throated lord.


The moral that we must bear in mind here is though the purpose was to extract nectar what came initially was POISON; it was Lord Shiva who rescued them; also Devas & Asuras were knowing what a Nectar was, they did not mistake poison to be nectar, which means they were aware of how a poison would be.

The lesson here in life when we embark on a mission, initially we may have to face opposition& resistance, not necessarily encouragement.
We must be ready like Lord Shiva to gulp down resistance, lest we may be swayed from purpose.
Also we must know what the outcome is, how to identify the outcome, what eveidence we have to know it is outcome.
Equally & much more even, we must be outcome oriented , meaning we must bear in mind the purpose of a process; only then when distractions come in between we will stay on purpose even when when we are busy with process.
NLP is outcome oriented; (for what purpose?)   
NLP also advocates on feedback (what sensory inputs you get as evidence)


Be ready for challenges on your road to Success wealth Prosperity.
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NLP through stories - Story 35

Punishment or stick ?
Rabindranath Tagore was attending a meeting of the teachers. After discussion on trends & qualities of literature, Rabindranath suddenly addressed a person, " Nepal Babu, you have become forgetful these days. So I shall give you 'dand' 
Nepal Babu was perplexed  and the gathering also could not comprehend the outburst of the poet. 
At that time Tagore took out a stick & gave it to Nepal with this remark," you had forgotten this stick at my place yesterday. So please take your stick. 
It was the that people assembled there understood Tagore's joke. 
'DAND' means PUNISHMENT as well STICK.. 

It is pun, right???
In a sense NLP employs this pun appropriately as conversational reframing;
conversational reframing is done to shift the focus or perception of the subject by a twist. 
Sleight of Mouth pattern in NLP helps subjects get out of stuck state and
empowers them by surprisingly providing a new meaning to the same context.
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NLP through stories - story 34

A woman went to meet her friend at her residence. 
She was introduced to the daughter of her friend.
This woman commented to the daughter, " You look like 8th standard student, though you study now 5th standard only; why don't you take up sports and participate in competition; surely you will win prizes"
Thereafter she spoke to her friend and left from there.
 A few months later, this woman got a call from her friend. The friend said," Thanks for encouraging my daughter; she indeed participated in sports and has got prizes"
This woman was very happy, yet could not make out the background," I dont remember to have particularly encouraged your daughter"
Her friend said," Remember months before you came home; engaged in a conversation with my daughter, that time you suggested to her to involve in sports. She was feeling low about herself, But your words triggered the spirit in her; she started taking interest in studies & school activities; now she has won prize"   


The moral of the story is even innocent remark of good words
have electrifying effect on right thinking well meaning people.
The woman was not even aware of having encouraged the 'daughter';
it was more a matter of fact for her to speak well & kindly.
One of the principles of NLP is -
 Every communication either contributes to or contaminates relationship to a lesser of greater degree.

Communication is vital for quality life.
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NLP through srories -- story 33

A man once read in an ancient book about a black stone on a shore of the black sea which could on contact can turn any metal into gold. The stone would be warm to touch. So he went to the Black Sea, and found there a heap of black stones. He was convinced one of these would be the miracle stone.
He picked up a stone felt it on his cheek found it cold and flung into the sea. 
The second stone too was cold and followed the first one into the sea. 
He did this every day for days weeks months years.
Years later he put a stone to his cheek like usual and threw it into the sea, 
only to realize that that was the stone he was looking for.

Alas!
Very sad.
We soon get into habits, get into monotonous thoughtless routine losing sight of the purpose.
Man is more a creature of habit; what gets into habit happens unconsciously. 
90% of our activity every day is unconscious activities;
while definitely unconscious activities save our time & energy,
we must also bear in mind what we feed into unconscious mind.
We lose our awareness in our mechanical routine.
Prudence lies in being aware of what is going on inside and outside .
A little of awareness would have saved years of labor.
NLP advises to be aware of sensory acuity  and the feed back we get.
NLP advises to increase our awareness more & more.
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NLP thorugh stories- story 32

Needless to mention the special wisdom of Socrates.

He was also known for his simplicity & austerity in life.
Socrates was very appreciative of the spiritual wisdom of Hindu sages.

Though Socrates was simple,
he had a fascination to visit market place and
spend time in window shopping.

His friend once asked him
why spent so much of time gazing at products he never bought.

Socrates said with a smile,
“I like to spend time here.
Coming here I realize how happy I am,
even though I don’t have these products in my life “

Is it strange ?
Not really. Human we are and we tend to think to have pleasure by having something. So we tend to drive for something and possess to derive pleasure, only to realize that something else has more pleasure in it than what we have on hand.

The point here is from NLP angle it is the meaning what we give to events is what makes sense to us, nothing less nothing more. It is our interpretation that gives meaning

Like Shakespeare said, “Nothing is good or bad; our thinking makes it so” 

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NLP through stories - Story 31

A man went to a Zen master and expressed that he was a very angry man. 
He wanted to get rid of his anger.

The Master said, " then I want to see you anger. Can you show me?"
The man said he could not; 
The Master asked him to try to get anger..
The man said he could not get anger, though it was coming on its own.

Master then said," Man, you are not an angry person. 
If it is a part of your being you will be able to show it at your will. 
You don't have anger in you. 
You were not born with anger either. 
So first stop identifying your self with anger." 
and there after took the man through a process of containing anger

Yes anger like any other emotion happens in us as an effect of a cause.
The cause mostly is due to disappointment over not getting what one wants.
NLP says clearly People are not their behavior; man transcends his behavior.
Behavior is something happening in a man;
there are times a man is out of a particular behavior.
Man is separate from his behavior.
If he is separate from his behavior, then is it wise to identify oneself with his behavior?

NLP recommends to separate people from behavior.
NLP recommends to separate intention form behavior
In fact whole of REFRAMING  rests on this founding principle.
Every behavior is a learned behavior;
and so you can learn a behavior.
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NLP through stories - Story 30

A girl student in a school said with disgust, 
" I am just 6 years now; another 10 more years to spend here in the same school; I hate it"

The teacher said, 
" You are lucky; You can get released in 10 years. 
I am a teacher here; I have to keep coming here till my retirement"


Nothing is good or bad other than the meaning we give to it.
You can see the blessing of this student in comparison with the teacher from the angle of coming to school.

What appears as problem may be taken as a blessing if you expand the frame of reference or change your frame or reference.

This is called as MEANING REFRAMING in NLP;
Meaning reframing is done to release us from stuck state or disempowered state.
In other words looking at 'brighter side' 

Should one necessarily reframe every difficult situation??
Not necessary;
where as in practice if you reframe you feel empowered.
NLP helps to be empowered.
VRnlp makes it happen.
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NLP through stories - story 29

A king with his troop was going for hunting and he lost his way.
He & his troop were very tired exhausted;
they were looking for a space to relax.
Suddenly they heard a man from a tree shouting out,
" O wise king !! I am grateful to you for being my guest. Please come over here.
I shall feed you all and serve you.."
His voice was very sweet and kind; so the King was very pleased and reached the tree.
The man alighted from tree and started staring at the king.
Then he shouted at the kind with unkindly words.
The minister got angry and was about to behead the man.
The king stopped the minister and started moving away. 
The man in the forest again climbed the tree and sat on it.
He realised King was moving away & so shouted, "
"O king ! benefactor of whole kingdom !! Bear with my folly.
I am here to serve you; please come"

The king was really surprised over the alternating stance of this man.
He sent the minister near the man to enquire.
The minister neared the tree; by then the man got down from the tree and approached the minister..
once he was away from the tree, again he started abusing the king minister.

Noticing this the King got a clue of the dual behavior of this man;
when he was on tree the man was noble kind and warm;
away from tree he was intemperate.  

The king instructed the minister to gather details about the tree.
Upon serious enquiry the minister came to know that 
in the very place where the tree was, the throne of King Vikramadiya was buried..
hence by the influence of fair & just practice of the King though dead long back, 
the throne carried the same vibration and kept influencing people in its range.     
Therefore the man when on the tree was kind &
away from the tree his original nature of being unkind  surfaced.


Here we clearly find that the man in the forest has his state of mind changed.
Especially his state of mind changes according to the location he occupies.
The tree infuses in him 'positive' state of mind;
away from it he gets 'negative' state of mind

NLP also talks of the possibility of infusing 'positive' state of mind by a process called
CIRCLE OF EXCELLENCE..
Moving into the circle you can become 'RESOURCEFUL'   and accomplish what you want to accomplish in a situation where otherwise you may feel dis-empowered.
Circle oF excellence is a wonderful way to gain RESOURCE from within and be effective,
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NLP through stories -story 28

Akbar once called Birbal and said," Birbal ! It is strange to read in your Hindu Holy book that Lord Vishnu hearing the agonizing cry of an elephant rushed to his aid. Why would a God with so many servants at His disposal himself rush to the succor of the elephant?

Birbal replied. " Your Majesty, please give me 2 days time to answer your question "
Akbar granted him the request apparently with a pride to have humbled Birbal.

Birbal arranged to make a wax model of Emperor's grandson and dressed the wax model in grandson's clothes.
He then ordered a servant to carry the doll where Emperor could see him & pretended to fall and drop the doll into the pond with a cry drawing Emperor's attention.
The servant did so. 
When the Emperor heard the cry and saw his grandson fall into the pond, Emperor himself jumped into the pond & rescued 'grandson' 
Birbal now came out of a bush and asked " Your Majesty !! when you have so many servants, why you jumped in to the pond to save your grandson?? that too this is only a wax model..???"
It is for the same reason like yours, for Lord Vishnu every creature is precious"

Akbar understood his folly in having questioned the wisdom of Hindu's God.  


Everyone understand only with reference to their 'conditioning' & belief .
Everyone perceives world differently in unique ways.
To make them understand 'truth'  we must enter into their map & explain, for them to understand better.
Otherwise every word means different things to different people.
Also every context is inferred in one's own unique ways. 
In order to persuade or influence or make the person understand it is important to understand their map of reality and present an idea matching their map.
Whatever be the explanation Birbal would have given earlier, Akbar would not have bought it.
When Birbal demonstrated in the way Akbar would understand, the job got done.
One of the beliefs of NLP is "People respond only to their map of reality"
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NLP through stories -story 27

A man wanted to sell his 2 acre land which he thought as good for nothing  and approached an agent to help to dispose the land.
Next day this man saw an ad in the paper, " 2 acres of land located near highway, very good for cultivation with enough water resources; even it is suitable for factory building or residential purpose; best price"

After reading the advertisement this man went to the agent and said, " I have changed my mind; after reading your ad, I now realise the worth of my land; I dont want to sell"

Is it not interesting??
Often times you & I have the real potential & value.
yet not taking apt reference you tend to conclude you are powerless or worthless.
You need someone to remind you of your glory.
NLP exactly does this job of reminding you of your worth.
You already have all the resources you need.
NLP reminds you; reinforces in you.
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NLP through stories - story 26

“Which is important present or future?” a question was asked to an industrialist.

He quickly replied “Both”

He was asked to explain.

He said, “Present gives us the opportunity to know where we stand where we are how we are; and future gives us the opportunity to move to a better position than the present’’

Very insightful isn’t it??

NLP clearly says to be aware of what goes on now in you & around you; acknowledging the present is important, accepting the present is important.  -PRESENT STATE

And once having known where we are, we have to know where we want to be..   DESIRED STATE

Present State >----------------->------------------------> desired sate

NLP gives you tools to move from present state to desired state.

VRnlp helps to move & achieve your desired state.

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NLP through stories - Story 25

He was haunted by a ghost dream every day.
He could not sleep peacefully every day.
The moment he closed his eyes images of ghost in various shapes & size
seized his mind and he was becoming restless.
Even during waking hours he was worried over ghost dream & loss of peace.
He was now truly possessed.

One day a monster ghost approached him.
He was totally terror-stricken, terrified petrified.

In a shaky voice he asked the ghost, " what are you going to do?"

The ghost said, " How do I know?? You created me & direct me; 
only you know what I have to do"

Is it not strange that what we create seem like dictating us?
Every thing in this world is a creation of mind and we get conditioned by our creation and they seem to dominate.
We get so much associated with them that we conclude we are possessed by them.
If we know the knack of disassociation we can understand 'truth' and respond adeqautely.

Also it is clear we respond to our perception of reality & not  real reality.

NLP talks of association & dissociation..
In order to understand & alter you must know dissociation &
in order to perform you must associate.

VRnlp teaches you how to associate & dissociate appropriately.
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