NLP through stories -story 24

Two boys, brothers, were very naughty & pranks. 
They had the habit of flicking away recklessly.
Any amount of advice punishment had no effect on them.
They continued to be as they were. 
The parents became impatient and hopeless.
They heard of a church priest who had the knack of dealing with difficult people and bringing them around.

The parents took the boys to the priest.
The priest started his intervention.
"Boys, Do you know where God is?"

Upon hearing this, one boy alarmed the other,
"Come on, Run now & escape
God is missing & the priest suspect us"

This is 'CONDITIONING'
Even though the priest wanted to advice them of a good manner,
the very question triggered to the boys in their mind of the conditioning so far that they were 'lifters' and inadvertently they thought they were mistaken.

We also in life do like this on accasions based on our conditioning.
In the heat of the moment we most of the time  respond based on conditioning than intellectual calculation.
Hence NLP suggests to you to 'PROGRAM' your mind to modify behavior appropriately.
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NLP through stories - story 23

The sculptor was fully focused in crafting a image from a stone.
An onlooker was surprised to find 2 more images,similar to the one the sculptor was making, already there;
He could not contain his curiosity & asked the sculptor where these 3 stone images were going to be placed.
The sculptor replied only one was going to be installed;
The onlooker asked," why 3 images then?"
The sculptor said," the other two has not come as he expected; especially the nose, perfection is mising"
Onlooker asked," where is going to be installed?"
Th sculptor" 20 feet above ..there"
onlooker," so high.. who will notice the nose ??"
The sculptor," I will notice; I know"


This is what is called CONGRUENCE..
With regard to NLP learnng & practice you need to be congruent;
being true to your self is essential for appropriate outcome.
Nothing to compare, none to compete, align with your self and go by inner calling & hint.
Being true is important for authentic success.
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NLP through stories -story 22

A man was dying from a poisoned arrow.
His relatives rushed  a doctor to his side. 
But he refused to have his arrow removed unless
he had the answers to a few questions.
1. was the man who shot him white or black?
2. was he a native or a foreigner?
3. was he tall or short?
4. what language he spoke?
5. By what vehicle he escaped?

He was adamant that the could not be removed; and so he died.

Very unfortunate isn't it?

Like this man inappropriately intelligent or inquisitive, 
some are vainly analytical about issues & prove to be impractical idiots;
Ability to question the existing system,
ability to analyze the pros & cons of an issue,
ability to gain greater understanding of an issue by seeing many sides is welcome.
At the same time it must lead you to an appropriate benefit befitting the context.

That is why NLP does not believe in 'fixing the client'
NLP does not unnecessarily analyze the problem of the subject; does not work with the content;
NLP takes the subject through a process to the desired outcome.
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NLP through stories - Story 21

The second's hand in a clock complained to the clock maker," what a pain & dull routine for me; I need to keep on moving every second till the end, can you do something?

The clock maker said," It's easy; just focus on the next tic, rest is automatically done"

Often times in workshops people ask me,'the issue is doing the exercise & practice for one month;
I tell them this story and request them to focus doing that day; tomorrow will take care of itself.
It is more of belief system.
Their experience in the past have confirmed that they are not capable of doing something consistently; and so they doubt their focus to doing every day without fail and a mental estimate doing an assignment for 30 days seems a burden.
Doing one day is an achievement & focusing on that accomplishment and taking reference as an achiever you shift your focus from lack of consistency to capable of doing.
This will make you do continuously and consistently.  
How to eat an elephant?
''a bite at a time''
In NLP we call it as 'CHUNKING'
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NLP through stories - Story 20

A man approached a Zen master & requested him to be accepted as Guru.
Master refused. The man insisted on the ground that he was already trained by various masters. He said he had come for furthering his knowledge.

Zen master replied he was not the right guru for him. Still the man insisted.

The Guru then said," Ok now go to the next room; take the bucket there; and draw water from the well."

The man felt insulted initially, "I have come for knowledge; he gives this menial job for me ?" with  this thinking he took the bucket; to his shock he found the bucket had no base.

He rushed to the master," Master, the bucket has no base; how can I draw water?" he questioned with impatience & irritation.

Master said in a measured tone," That's why I said I cant be your guru. If you want to learn from me, you need to have trust & humility. If you keep on evaluating what I tell you, learning cannot take place." 

Moral of the story is very simple & evident. One needs to have absolute trust in the process to attain an outcome; meddling with doubt & disbelief in the middle is counter productive.
When it comes to learning & benefiting from NLP one must have absolute trust in the process;
I would say surrender to the process only then you can gain from NLP.
NLP means Never Lose Patience.
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NLP through stories - Story 19

A woodcarver called Ching had finished work on a bell frame. Everyone who saw it marvelled at the work for it looked like a master piece.
The wood carver replied," I am only simple workman. I am no genius.
But what I do is when I want to make a bell frame I first meditate to calm my mind. When I meditate for 3 days I dont think of rewards or punishment.
when I meditate for 7 days I forget myself; only my skill remains. 
In that state I will walk into the forest, stop at the tree that will give me the best frame; I see the bell frame in all its perfection.
Then my hands go to the task; having set myself aside, nature meets nature that is performed through me.
This no doubt is the reason why everyone says that the finished product is the work of spirits"

This is what we say as  being in a state of flow where thinking without thinking takes place.
A parallel to this story happened in the life of Swami Vivekananda; when he was in American wandering in the streets prior to Parliament of Religion meet in Chicago, he happened to see a boy struggling to shoot with his gun the target; Swami asked if he could try his hand; the boy agreed; Swami aimed & exactly hit the bull's eye. The boy was amazed and asked if Swami was an expert shooter. Swami said it was the first he touched a gun; and Swami said, ''My boy, I did not simply aim at the target; I became the target and so as a matter of fact shooting became a flawless act.''

This is something may be hard to believe for those who are analytically inclined and logically questioning every act. 
It is more of being to becoming.
This calls for a state of mind which is still and calm. 
This is possible if one can 'hasten slowly' 
It is posssible with whole mind approach; a correct combination of right & left brain.
NLP has a number of tools to trigger your whole brain and have a resourceful state of mind for best result.
FLOW is sure.
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NLP through stories - Story 18

Akbar consulted an astrologer and enquired on the well being of his life and near & dear.
The astrolger after carefully examining the planetary position said with reluctance, " Maharaj ! Your close relatives will leave this world before your eyes"
Akbar was upset & angry. He expressed his displeasure over the prediction.
He refused to believe the astrologer.
The astrologer also pleaded on the accuracy of his prediction and clarified that he was only stating what the planets indicated.
Akbar ordered the astrologer to move away from his sight.
Feeling sad the astrologer reported to Birbal; 
He promised the astrologer he would set right.
Birbal went straight to meet Akbar and enquired why Akbar was sad.
Akbar narrated the prediction.
Birbal said immediately," No No astrologer has made some mistake in his calculation; let me analyze now; please give me your horoscope"
Akbar handed over; Birbal spent sometime with the horoscope and said with an exclamation & excitement on the face, " What a blessed life you have Maharaj!  God has given you the privilege of taking care of your near & dear all through out their life" 
Akbar was very pleased and gave gifts to Birbal.

The moral of the story here is very evident.
The fact has not changed; only the presentation has been modified to suit the belief system of Akbar.
It is not enough how appropriate you are; how you are appropriate is more important.
one of the principles of NLP is A person with flexibility gains control over the situation
If you dont get the desired resuly in one way, then change the way you present it to get the desired outcome, like Akbar was given the fact in an acceptable way.

NLP through stories -Story 17

Sufi Bayazid said,
" When I was young I was revolutionary  I prayed to God thus
"God Give me the power to change the world" 
Even after reaching middle age I could not change anybody; so I made a change in my prayer, " God give me the power to change my near & dear"
Even that was not possible for me to change them,
Now I pray," Lord, Give me the power to change what all I can change in me"
If I had had this maturity when I was young a lot I would have accomplished perhaps.

"Be the change you want to see in the world" said Gandhiji.
The only change you can certainly make in this world is making changes in you.
It is within your control and it is what first matters.
NLP also emphasizes the same.
NLP says your worls is your map, perceived reality.
Whatever change you want to bring make changes in your perceived reality, then the world changes.
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NLP through stories - story 16

A young couple won a prize in a weekly magazine and were interviewed by a correspondent.
"How long have you been married?" reporter asked.
"Two & half years now" replied the husband.
”no no three years it is fast approaching" quickly corrected his wife.
"It doesn't matter much" said the correspondent 
"How can you say? It does matter to me; I am already demanding a necklace for the 3rd anniversary" retorted the wife.

People have their own agenda. People understand & respond based on their conviction convenience & expectation.
In the interaction with people an intelligent approach NLP advises is to ask questions for what purpose they say so. Instead of jumping to conclusion understanding their beliefs && expectations can help to interact initiate lead and form a workable relationship or a better equation.
The belief of NLP here is "PEOPLE RESPOND TO THEIR MAP ONLY"   
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NLP through stories -story 15

Sage Narad came to meet Lord Shiva with a mango fruit.
Handing over the fruit he said," This a Wisdom fruit"
Shiva handed down the fruit to Parvathi Devi.
Being a mother she called her two sons Ganapathy & Muruga and
instructed them to share it equally.
Lord Shiva objected to this & said,"One should take the fruit fully;no dividing it"
Then they came up with the idea of contest.
'Whoever comes around the world first will get this fruit' 

Lord Muruga immedaiately rushed riding on his peacock.
Lord Ganapathy thought for a while & asked a question,
"Is there any connection between the world & my parents?"
"Your parents are the world" replied Narad;
"Then going around my parents tantamounts to going around the world, right?" asked Ganapathy.
"YES" said Narad.
Then Lord Ganapathy went around his parents and got the fruit as prize.

This is an ancient puranic story.
The message that we get from this story is really brilliant.
Indeed Lord Muruga did a verbatum job. whereas Lord Ganapathy thought for a while and used his creativity to arrive at a novel way of doing the task.
He found one and did a smart work.

This event also iindicates Stephen Covey's law, "BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND"
 It is not just hard work but smart work that fetches result faster these days.
To have smart brain one should deploy libeally the use of right brain.
NLP relies heavily on the use of right brain.
NLP has a number of tools to activate right brain.
With NLP one can be smart & effective.
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NLP through stories -story 14

A overzealous man went to a master and asked,
" How long will it take for me to gain wisdom?"
Master replied," ten years"
Shocked by the answer the man impulsively asked,"ten years? so long?"
Master said," sorry I was wrong; it's not 10 years; you will take 20 years"
Man asked," why have you doubled it now?"
Master said,"now when I think of the possibility, you will take 30 years to attain wisdom"

Maturity wisdom enlightenment- these are not like train journey to predict scheduled arrival;
it is inner awakening; journey within to be figured out by the individual.
It is more an attitude with fullest faith in the process.
What is needed is Patience & Perseverance.
If one can surrender to the process enlightenment is sure to come.

This attitude of opening out from within is what is required to gain mastery in NLP.
NLP course is not just syllabus to be covered and claim authority with a certificate on hand.
It is journey of joyful discovery;
Many seekers of NLP learning express their impatience to go through the learning process and
want everything in one gulp & go.
NLP is not a syllabus to be covered.
NLP is a process for self discovery;
it is process to appreciate your core being;
it is a journey of discovering your latent talent  and
manifesting in appropriate way in a resourceful state.
when it comes to learning NLP, Never Lose Patience
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NLP through stories -story 13

A man took his brother to a doctor.

"Doctor ! My brother complaints of feeling sleepy when he gets into the bus. Can you do something?"

Doctor with a sarcasm, " Dont say all these are a complaint; If he feels sleepy, let him happily sleep during the bus journey."

The man shockingly replied," Doctor, what will be the fate of passenger if the bus driver feels sleepy? My brother is a bus driver"


ECOLOGY. This word plays an important part in all NLP interventions.
All actions have consequence beyond their specific context. Ecology is a concern for overall system.
NLP advises you to make an ecology check  whenever you bring in change;
An ecology check is done to ensure that the change you bring in does good to even those around you and does not give room for your benefit alone at the cost of others around you and also personally for you a short term gain does not become a long term problem.
Ecology is important for organizations too. A big leap in sales may result in smooth sail in the coming months.
Over enthusiasm become counter productive.
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NLP through stories - story 12

A man becomes very weak sick & serious.
His wife rushes him to a hospital.
Put in ICU the team of doctors examine the sick man.
Seeing him motionless the chief doctor calls his wife & says,
"sorry madam; your husband is dead."

At that time the wife feels a pull from behind;
her husband in a very feeble voice says," No; I am alive; I am alive"

The wife snubs him,"keep quite; Doctor is an expert; he knows better"   

Excessively relying on expert opinion sometimes may become very dangerous.
Opinion is a opinion only, even from expert.
NLP stresses the need to observe within and read cues for authentic understanding of the process.
Listen to yourself; that is where you get your answers. 
If you listen to yourself most of the time you will not regret.
The more we are aligned with our self we need not fight with anything inside or outside.
NLP gives you tools to observe your self.
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NLP through stories -Story 11

American President Eisenhower was making preparations to visit India, when Nehru was the Prime Minister. A few days prior to the departure he was seriously reading till late night. His wife becoming curios asked Eisenhower what he was seriously reading.
He showed her the book The Discovery Of India" by Jawaharlal Nehru. He said since he was visiting India he wanted to know more about the people & also Nehru so that it would be easy to interact.

It is always better to know about a person and his mental make up before meeting him.
That would help to strike a rapport easily with the person. 
One of the pillars of NLP is Rapport.
NLP emphasizes to be in rapport with oneself & others.

Rapport in relationship is marked by cordiality acceptance & trust.
Resistance means lack of rapport.

NLP gives clues & tools to develop RAPPORT instantly.
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NLP through stories - story 10

Iswar Chandra Vidyasagar was a great Bengali scholar.
Once he went to see a drama.
In the play the hero unbearably tortures the heroine.
Vidayasagar witnessing this could not tolerate and jumped on the stage and started beating the hero with his chappal.

The whole audience was shocked and paralysed by the behavior of this eminent scholar Iswara Chandra Vidyasagr.

The actor playing hero’s role hugged the chappal & fell at the feet of Vidyasagar.
Then the actor spoke,
“ I have received many awards & prizes for my acting.
Now in my opinion none of them is so precious as this chappal.
This chappal would ever remain a memento;
this memento will keep reminding me that
a great scholar like Iswara Chandra Vidyasagar
got very impressed with my acting and
took it as real life character.”

In fact the actor felt excited and Vidyasagar felt embarrassed
by his irresistible behavior. 

For Vidyasagar in his involvement he could not differentiate drama & real life.
In his perception it was real at that moment.  That means his perception as true characters in real life becomes his reality and so irresistibly he beats the hero. 
Like this experience of VIdyasagar, our mind cannot differentiate between real & imagination in an ‘uptime ’ (involved state) and perceived reality becomes real reality.
NLP says in fact we deal only with perceived reality; perception becomes reality.
There is nothing 100% objective in this manifested world;
every experience is mixed with subjective element  to a very lesser or greater degree.

The hero here did not take it offensive when Vidyasagar beat him with chappal; but rather saw this as a compliment; he saw the action of Vidyasagar from an empowering angle.
In fact  hero gave a new meaning to the behavior of Vidyasagar and felt it welcome.

This way of shifting perspective and giving new meaning to the behavior in order to move away from
unresourcefulness  to resourcefulness  is called MEANING REFRAMING in NLP

With meaning reframing you can turn difficulties as opportunities for growth & gain.

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NLP through stories - story 9

A cobra went to the saint and complained to him that as soon as people saw him they immediately try to kill him. 
It requested the saint to show him a way to escape from the threat.
The saint said,"you are a poisonous snake; so to protect them they try to threaten you; 
if they know you wont bite them, they wont kill you. Promise me you wont bite; I will tell the villagers not to try to kill you"
The cobra promised so; the saint informed the villagers accordingly.  
Everyone felt relieved;
only for a little while.
Now the snake was in the receiving end. 
young boys started pelting stones at the snake for fun and thrill.
The snake was almost losing life gradually; not able to move; not able to eat; very pathetic.
Luckily for the snake the saint passing by that way noticing its pitiable condition enquired for the details;
The snake said,"you are the reason for my plight now; You took a promise from me that I will not bite anyone; so now boys are emboldened to hurt me easily," 
To which the saint replied, " very sorry about it;  I told you not to bite;  but I did not say you should not raise your hood and hiss to frighten them to protect you"

Raising hood and expressing displeasure is perfectly correct in order to safeguard one's interest;
broad-mindedness and grace should not become misplaced. Being assertive is important.
also the story highlights another valid point, it is that anything we come to know or learn we need to customize it to suit our need. Only then we can derive real benefit. 

The key principle of NLP from this story is -
"Every behavior is useful in some context" 
  It is the context that determines the utility of an expression or behavior.
Everything must be evaluated in the context of its happening & not just a blanket evaluation is thrust on it.
Everything is beautiful if it is in the right place.
According to NLP there is nothing inherently postive or negative about anything.
It is either appropriate or inappropriate in a given context.
Go by the context, not simply by some text 
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NLP through stories - Story 8

The barber in a shop had the habit of demonstrating an event to his customers.

From the house opposite to his shop the barber would call a school going boy and ask him, "my boy see on my left palm I have two coins (1 rupee coin) & on the right palm one coin (5 rupee coin). You can take those coins which has more value?”

The boy invariably was choosing 2 one rupee coins.

The barber would ask immediately why he chose that way. 

The boy would say “two has more value than one”; so saying he would grab the two one rupee coins and run away.  
The barber then would ridicule, “these days boys don’t have enough brains”

While this was a regular affair, one day one of the customers later met the boy and wanted to educate him to take 5 rupee coin than just 2 one rupee coin.

The boy in a hushed tone said,”Promise me you will not reveal to the barber what I am going to say now";
there upon the customer promised and the boy said,
"Even though I know one 5 rupee coin has more value than 2 one rupee coins;
still I choose because so long as I demonstrate I am ignorant I will keep getting 2 rupees;
the day I prove my intelligence I will stop getting money” 

One of the NLP principles is
“People make the best choice available to them”

The choice may not be appropriate according to your understanding
and you may criticize the same;
whereas if you sit with them to understand, you will come to know their wisdom
in choosing a particular behavior or coming to a particular decision.   

Like Stephen Covey says "Seek first to understand; then be understood"
Always respect people's choice. 

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